A gentle reminder for the moms who do it all, especially when no one else sees it.
Hey Winefam, let’s address the elephant in the room. You didn’t become a mother by yourself, but now you are by yourself, plain and simple. Grab your favorite drink or snack, this one might hit a nerve. Feeling brave, keep reading…..
Mother’s Day can feel bittersweet. This is especially true when you’re a single mom, a single married mom, or navigating the messy emotional terrain of divorce.
While everyone seems to be out at brunch with their picture-perfect families, you’re waking up to change diapers, pack snacks, and play referee before you’ve even had your coffee. No flowers on the kitchen counter. No handmade card waiting on your pillow. And no partner coordinating anything to remind you how much you’re loved. If you’re co-parenting, there’s a chance you don’t even have your children with you that day.
That can make the your heart feel even heavier.
The real problem?
Mother’s Day starts to feel like a spotlight on everything you don’t have, instead of the celebration of everything you are.
Here’s your Mom Tip Tuesday: Reclaim your day.
If no one honors you the way you deserve, do it yourself. No sugar coating here, the reality is you have to choose to change the narrative. Choose to choose yourself. If you’re on a budget check out these wallet friendly mothers day ideas.
Start a tradition that centers you, not as an afterthought, but as the main event. Order your favorite takeout, make a mimosa before noon, plan a solo trip to the bookstore, or create a quiet at-home spa day once the kids are asleep. If you do have your children with you, let them be part of the celebration. Set up a “Mom & Me” picnic in the backyard or living room. Let them see what it looks like to honor yourself—not just on Mother’s Day, but every day. This article here is also a good read.
This is also a powerful opportunity to teach your kids that celebration doesn’t need perfection. It just requires intention.
So here’s your permission slip:
You don’t need to wait for someone else to show up for you.
You are not forgotten. You are not too much.
You are the glue, the grace, and the grind. You deserve to feel seen.
Think of how many holidays you had to carry for the illusion. This time let’s be real.
Why This Matters for Divorced Moms of Small Children:
Divorced or single moms often carry the emotional and logistical load alone. Between co-parenting challenges, limited help, and shifting routines, finding time for self-love feels impossible. But by creating your own rituals, on holidays like Mother’s Day, you’re reminding yourself (and your children) that you matter.
Celebrate you the way you always wanted to.
What’s one way you plan to pour into yourself this Mother’s Day?
Drop your ideas in the comments or tag me @carbsncabernet and show me how you’re rewriting the script with #MomTipTuesday.
As always hoping your wine or your coffee is stronger than your kids, and never forget that you ARE loved.
Meet the Face Behind CarbsnCabernet, Amber
A devoted mom of three, full-time RN, and unapologetic lover of Jesus, Amber is navigating life one shift, school pickup, and glass of Cabernet at a time. Through her blog, she shares the unfiltered reality of balancing motherhood, faith, career, and the occasional meltdown, with humor, grace, and a whole lot of carbs. Carbs & Cabernet is more than a blog, it’s a space for women who are doing their best, even when life feels like a beautiful mess. Amber opens up about the joys and struggles of parenting, her walk with Christ, the challenge of showing up fully as both a professional and a parent, and why sometimes the best therapy is girl talk and garlic bread. If you’re looking for honest encouragement, practical tips, and a little reminder that you’re not alone, you’re in the right place.
Come as you are, there’s room at the table.
